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Friday, August 14, 2009

Pantang

there's a few things i'm very 'pantang' about. no, not those 44-days pantang. heck, for those i'm lucky if i manage to reach 4 (let alone 44) days.

one thing i'm so tremendously 'pantang' about is the phrase 'orang tua kata...' honestly, this phrase can make the most brilliant person become stupid. yes, seriously...stupid, that's the word. why beat around the bush?! if you want to scare someone, just say 'orang tua kata...' and you'll be sure of making them eat out of your hands. 'orang tua kata, kalau anak hisap kaki tu, dia nak adik', 'orang tua kata, kalau anak laki sayang-sayang perut, baby tu baby perempuan - tak jeles katanya'.

then along comes a parent, not ready to have more babies...pegi tarik nya kaki baby tu...takut dapat baby lagi. gone one of a child's development because the parent is so stupid to not be able to think rationally. or, scenario 2, there lies an innocent baby, laughing and gurgling. unaware of his surrounding, the baby plunks his toes into his mouth. tersipu-sipu lah malu nya mak budak, sambil pegang-pegang perut padahal baru 2nd day period.

another phrase i'm so pantang about is 'pembawakan budak'. ok...will someone kindly explain this to me...what does that phrase mean. it seems everything under the sun is blamed on the 'budak' that one seems to 'bawak'. and what the heck did that 'budak' ever do to warrant this blame? a mother-to-be complains...i'm so tired all the time. the answer...oh pembawakan budak. a mother-to-be says...i cant look at my husband, i get angry all the time. the answer...oh pembawakan budak. a mother-to-be tells...my children are crying all the time. the answer...oh pembawakan budak. bloody hell...why get pregnant if you want to blame everything on the baby? the baby's not even born yet, and he's already carrying all these burden.

tired? no, its not the baby's fault...its the mother. angry? no, its not the baby's fault...its the mother. children crying? no, its not the baby's fault...its the mother. realise for yourself, why cant you? when you're pregnant, like it or not, you lose your energy faster, hence you are tired more often. dont blame the baby, blame yourself. when you are pregnant, your hormones run amok. when you get angry, dont blame the baby, blame yourself. when you are pregnant, you have less patience, less time, less energy to spend on those around you. dont blame the baby, blame yourself.

another thing i seriously cannot fathom is 'air penawar'. honestly...every tom, dick and harry seem to be dependent on this air for some reason. my son is kicking up a fuss at home, maybe i should give him some 'air penawar' so that he'll listen to me. my daughter is purposely driving me up the walls, maybe she should drink some 'air penawar' to cool down.

isnt that great?! who cares about parenting skills, when there's 'air penawar' around. who cares about taking the time to talk and listen to your children, when there's 'air penawar' available. child crying? just drop some 'air penawar' in his bottle of milk and wait for the result. shops like mph should just cease the parenting books and just sell 'air penawar' on their shelves.

come on...there are times we seek 'divine help' when we are at a lost, of course, there's no denying that. but there are people who dont even want to try and just...there's something 'wrongggg' (catch my drift) with my child and only 'air penawar' can help. oh try first why dont you? look at yourself first, why dont you? have you changed, have the environment around you changed, have situation around you changed? analyse those first, settle them first, then turn around and sought help.

for some people, anak menangis je, 'adalah benda tu' but tak sedar that you've been to busy and too tired to pay attention to your child and she wants just that, some attention from you. tapi malas nak pikir, terus assume...ada lah benda tu, kena minum air penawar baru ok ni.

my note to every breathing, living person out there...use that brain of yours. dont waste the 2 seconds God spent putting it into your body. pikir lah dulu before korang kelams tak tentu pasal. buat sakit telinga aku je kena tempias-tempias dengar...

on that note...'orang tua' ni nak cakap...have a great 'air penawar'-less weekend.

9 comments:

b_kim said...

wakakak... usually wat mydad wud advise is.. ahhh let them talk.. masuk tinga kiri kuar tinga kanan... just take wats de best for us... :D heehe cool sis... aisey rs miss pl lama tak jengok sini =)

Amira said...

I came across the "org tua ckp..." and "pembawakan budak"...many times, especially when I was pregnant. I'm one of those people who believe more in science than "ckp org tua". In fact, I'm quite furious when someone quoted that notion to me.

I feel like telling, "Hey..it's 2009, please think clearly because these 'ckp org tua' no longer relevant now"

"org tua ckp tak elok potong kuku malam2". Of course la...zaman dulu...mana ada lampu...sekarang terang benderang.

Pinkwatch said...

hi, lama tak komen kat sini...

hahahaha! enjoy reading this.. mmg pon funny.. and one more thing.. what with air syifa'.. jus tok guru dan bagai lagi nak bagi anak berenti nangis or anak terus pandai.. don't get me wrong... kalau anak tu malas or anak tu kembung perut or anak tu mmg kena attack virus aka tak sihat.. minum jus apa pon dia still tak berenti nangis or still tak pandai2.. yes of course I believe ada makhluk lain di bumi Allah nie selain manusia.. but 'our people' cpt sangat jump to conclusion.. asal nangis kena sampuk... kaji la dulu saintifik reason or at least logical reason kenapa budak tu merengek....kalau minum je jus tok guru semua jadi pandai semua jadi alim... senanglah marketing kalau gitukn.. cepat lah kaya skim MLM tu.. hihihihihi. ;)

nizafauzi said...

tempting tul nak comment kat post ni.. selalu jd silent reader je :)

enjoy reading post ni..

mmg org2 tua selalu jump in conclusion camni kan?? i ade niece belah hubby yg kuat menangis.. asal celik je mata nangis celik je mata menangis.. mil suh mak bb tu bwk pegi berubat kononnye takut ade yg menumpang kat bb tu.. iskk.. tak tau nak kate ape la..

n mak bb tu PANDAI, tak berfikir dulu kenapa anaknye suka menangis, pegila bawak jumpe some sort of dukun2 camtu.. iskk.. tak faham betullah org camni.. close minded..

nae said...

I actually like the 'pembawakan budak' part. Let me get away with everything, probably murder as well if I ever need one.

Also, add one more cure-it-all : minyak angin/minyak gamat. Who needs doctor when you have minyak gamat handy.

eiseai said...

hahaha kim...mmg nak sangat masuk tlinga kanan kuar tlinga kiri. tapi kengkadang mcm arrgghhhh...gerammm hehehe

amira...me too, i'm like you. i tend to go for science than 'ckp org tua'. mainly because its better explain and easier to understand. if 'ckp org tua' people seem to think, u dont need more explanation...dah org tua ckp, it should be enough for you to follow. mana bolehhhhh...explain lah betul2 kan?

pinkwatch...mmg! there are people who would prefer to resort to 'ada benda' than being told anak diorang just notty or just well...just plain not well.

niza...hehe pandai tul. asyraf dulu pun cried everytime he was awake, alhamdulillah he grew out of it when he got bigger. now still menangis meraung2 but kurung dlm bilik sebelah, stop terus. tunggu je lah baby tu besar, tau lah dia control emotions dia kan.

nae...aiyooo minyak gamat is another. someone once offered me minyak gamat for amir's mosquito bites. thanks but no thanks. ubat doctor is fine for him.

Mary J said...

hahaha.. i so lurvveee this post! Cynical and sarcastic, I like.. hehehe

Cujie said...

hi kakak...

tu hari alesha dok tonggeng dan main cak-cak celah kangkang dia... then bibik cakap 'dia tgk adik dia la tu'

hehe... cujie senyum je dengar. Takkan adanya buat masa skg ni... hahaha

SyaNa said...

best la entry ni..
terbukak sket mata hati ni

nak share la my experience
dulu time kecik2 saya dijaga oleh sedara di kg tau
pastu time tu mmg la nakal (kak phira jenis pendiam) sekali tu kan depa bg sye mandi air limau
kata nk buang setan sbb nakal sgt
gile!!
mama ku tau, ngamuk la dia kan..

tu la mentaliti org2 gitu..sket2 pk ke arah tu je

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