Pages

Sunday, August 20, 2017

Amani's Second Month

time seriously could not fly any faster. i'm so tired and have been doing countdown to amani's month-birthday religiously. it has been...xx more days to her second month, xx days til she sleeps through the night, xxx more days til she can sit up, xxx days til she can taste her first food.

to my surprise, amani's journey to her second month have been pretty full of development. if i was going back to work, i would be all relaxed and happy. the biggest gift she gave me was foregoing her night feed. ya Allah...words cant describe how happy she made me when she slept through the night.

i have mentally prepared myself for 6 months of night feeding, the abangs and amira would generally stop night feeding once they started weaning (all except asyraf because he's just asyraf). i was even prepared for later than that seeing that amani was feeding every single hour initially...you never know right, what if she just has a big appetite.

once amani turned 6 weeks, almost 7 weeks, however, she slowly adjusted to the night and day feeding time. she would spread her feed to once every 5 hours, although her daytime feed would maintain at once every 3-4 hours. she would have a bottle at 11pm, and wake up after 5am for her next feed. that gave me the opportunity to prepare abangs lunch boxes every morning.

i was already a zombie and falling asleep while feeding her at night, so to move from hourly night feeds to just one feed is wonderful. then she was a bit fussy from the late night 11pm feed so i moved the feed earlier to 10pm. that gave me to chance to go back to my normal bedtime. i predicted a 3am wake up call but it never came. i would wake up and look at her, shake her a bit and waited. but she continued sleeping and finally woke up for a feed at 5.30am. that carried on for a few days before i can actually say...ok, this is good. i was afraid it was a fluke but alhamudillah, its been 2 weeks without night feed. thank you baby girl.

i believe the main reason for amani sleeping through the night is her weight. she's put on quite a bit of weight and is able to consume a full 4oz bottle and that would last her for hours. she's also gotten used to the cold aircond-ed room. she loves to be swaddled as she goes to sleep but wont be woken by the swaddle blanket being kicked open.





its so lovely to hug and snuggle amani now. she's a big fluffy baby and lost the wrinkly skin appearance she had that first month. i've had to keep her newborn clothes back into the storage box and take out the 3months clothes for her to wear. its of course still loose but i'm guessing it wont be for long.





we shaved off her hair recently. she looked a bit uncomfortable as the days got hotter and have been perspiring quite a bit. her hair did not smell very good and i was itching to wash her scalp. she was quite ok during the shave and looked so fresh after all the hair was gone.






amani's still the screaming amani. if she's not sleeping or feeding or held in someone's arms, she'll be screaming. and she screams loud! that's another countdown i'm making...less of screaming and crying and more of interacting. hope stage that comes soon...

how amani spends her days...








Tuesday, July 25, 2017

Amani is One Month Old

never have i felt one month would be like one year. with amani being premature, needing constant observation, being no six, being a baby when mummy has reached her 40s, its been very tiring. while i know people go - enjoy while it lasts - i find myself doing countdowns to her first month, and second, and sixth and her weaning and cutting down bottles and sleeping through the night and sitting down.

after amani's first 2 weeks, which were quite difficult, as she would ask for her bottle every hour and she wouldn't sleep and didn't like the cold, it started to get slightly easier. she still sleeps better during the day, maybe as its warmer, but the gap between bottles at night have gotten longer. she can get 3 - 3.5 hours, once even getting a good 5 hour gap between her bottles. but there've been days where she regress and go back to 2-hourly bottles and those days scare and stress me out. i should get naps during the day to cover the lost of sleep but during the day amira would require my attention so i'm neither here nor there, at the moment.









other than her feeding & sleeping schedules, amani is actually pretty easy to handle. she's ok with her bath and diaper changing. she was wonderful when i had my postnatal massages - she slept through the 2.5 hours and then some. she's undisturbed by the hecticness of abangs in between school. she slept through an outing we had one weekend, from the time we left the house til we reached home 3 hours later. yes, she's really good but i pray the feeding schedule would normalise soon.

amani had her check-up a few days after she turned one month old. alhamdulillah, she has put on weight. she was 2.69kg when she was born and lost a bit during her stay in the special care nursery but has put back on some during her first month. she now weighs 3.6kg. i thought amani be getting her first immunisation but her pead said she will only start on her second month check-up. at her first month visit, she was only given general check up.



alhamdulillah, she's growing real well and healthily in her first month. a vast improvement from the frightening first week she had.






Friday, July 07, 2017

Hari Raya Aidilfitri 2017

this year's syawal was very low-key. all the preparations were settled way before raya. everyone's bajus we bought before the fasting month began, rendang was cooked mid-way through the fasting month, cookies were ordered in advance. and well, basically that's it. i wasnt going to cook, i wasnt going to dress up, i wasnt going to actually do much except well...eat.




the week before raya was hectic. with the delivery, amani's admission, my hanging out ouside the special care nursery for 2 days waiting for breastfeeding-calls and waiting for amani's ultimate discharge. she was finally discharged the day before raya and we were juggling 6 under-12s on raya eve.

we put the boys to work, though. they cleaned the guest toilet, cleaned the kitchen, vacuumed the whole of the downstairs floor, wiped every single surfaces, vacummed between the sofa seats and helped set up the dining table for guests.

it was drizzling on the morning of raya, i went down early and went into the kitchen immediately. i cooked beef rendang a couple of weeks before raya and i had to only heat them up for us to eat throughout the day. hubby helped make nasi impit the day before, they were thrown into the fridge to harden and to wait for it to be cut after he returns from aidilfitri prayers, as with the lemang he bought the day before. the only 'cooking' i had to do was to heat up the prepared & bought kuah kacang from brahim.

hubby and the boys went to the moque for aidilfitri prayers while i stayed at home to get amira and amani ready, as well as put the food (whatever that we have) on the table for us to devour.

when they returned, we took our customary raya family photo and had our salam-and-duit-raya session.










after we had a good meal, we went over to a neighbour's house. we hope to do more houses but we were still getting around with a new baby around so we couldn't this year. my family came over bearing food after lunch and hubby's friends dropped by towards the late afternoon. the kids were happily running around outside, after a month of very limited outdoor activities, they were super excited to be able to have a kick-a-bout in the garden.



i do miss cooking on raya eve and on raya morning, but i'll come back with a bang next year, insyaAllah. very quiet raya, actually. hopefully next year will be more hectic and full of screams and shouts and laughters, just how we like it.

...sayings

the value of marriage is not that adults produce children but that children produce adults - peter de vries

grown-ups never understand anything for themselves and it is tiresome for children to be always and forever explainning things to them - antoine de saint-exupery
 
Images by Freepik